A complicated situation that Tamara will be able to overcome in any case, although according to experts she will first have to go through a series of phases that go from denial, anger, through nostalgia, until acceptance is reached. Getting over a breakup is a matter of time. Several studies have analyzed what happens when our hearts break and how to go through it and the good news is that it is possible to turn the page. Of course, the time it takes is personal, there are those who achieve it in a few months and others take years, although the average is eleven months. According to a study by several researchers from the Department of Psychology of the Universidad Iberoamericana de Ciudad In Mexico, the first consequences experienced after a couple breakup are: feeling sadness, crying, anger, insecurity, jealousy towards the ex-partner, decreased self-esteem, depression, anxiety, high levels of physical stress and sometimes self-destructive behavior. The phases of mourningA breakup of a couple is a hard psychological process. And as such it must be faced. As Elisabethss Kübler-Ross and Kessler defend in their book “On mourning and pain”, before a death the person goes through five stages that help him in the process. And that they are none other than denial, anger, negotiation, depression and acceptance. Some stages that psychology experts consider to be the same ones to go through when an unexpected breakup occurs. When this happens, it is as if someone loved had died, although what has died is the promise of a life as a couple. So the first thing that comes is denial, where the individual does not accept it: “This cannot be with me.” happening to me”, a phrase that, when it comes to anger, becomes: How could he do this to me? After this we move on to negotiation where we try to find solutions and force agreements so that the situation changes. The next stage is depression- Sadness arrives, the person assumes that the relationship has really ended and that they will not be together again. Finally, acceptance is reached, a last phase where you accept that you ended up with your partner, You are recovering your strength and you don’t have so many negative thoughts. After going through all this, the duel is considered over and, if necessary, the person can fall in love again.